Happy Mother’s Day to all of you lovely mums out there. Mother’s Day is one of those days when I wish I could teleport myself back to Scotland to spend the day with my own Mum. Sure I send cards and a gift and I’ll FaceTime, but it’s not the same as actually being with her, and being able to give my Mum a hug today.
A lot of what Mums do is often taken for granted. Of course we love and appreciate our Mums but we don’t necessarily always give them the thanks or credit they so greatly deserve. It’s only once something happens, that we stop and take stock of how important they are to us. For me, that was moving away.
Leaving my Mum and Dad behind in Scotland as we moved to Canada was undoubtedly the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. No longer being able to pop over for a cuppa anytime I wanted, or turn up unannounced and know I could stay for dinner, or pop round for a hug after a bad day; all things I had previously taken for granted, made me quickly realise how important my Mum and my family was to me and how much I missed these simple things. This is something that as the years have went on, has never got any easier.
My Mum and I have always been very close but I feel that moving away has brought us even closer, ironic isn’t it? People say that absence makes the heart grow fonder; I actually don’t really agree with that, but I do think it makes you realise who and what really matters. Our limited time together means we don’t have time to waste on bickering and squabbling about silly things like we used to. We have to make the most of the time we get to spend together. Leaving made me realise how much I relied on my Mum and how much I missed having her there to chat to after a crap day at work. I miss not being able to go for afternoon tea, spa days and shopping trips with her whenever we want. I miss not being there to be her guinea pig for her new recipe creations. I miss so much about just spending time with her.
I know how much my Mum struggled with me leaving, and still does each time we say goodbye and I know how much she misses not having me physically there. The feeling is very mutual. Despite this though, her and my Dad (he is equally wonderful), have always been so incredibly supportive of us. They have always gone out of their way to put me first and made sure I had every opportunity in life. And their support was never more evident than when we told them we were moving to Canada.
I can’t imagine how it must feel when your child tells you they’re moving abroad, but right from the start they put their own feelings aside and were nothing but encouraging and positive about the move. And over the years since we have left they have continued to be so supportive and so interested in our lives here. I’m sure they never planned on having Montreal as a recurrent holiday destination but they tirelessly visited us and delighted in being a part of our lives there and meeting and spending time with our friends. They are genuinely happy for us and I think that is the most selfless act; to be happy for your child’s happiness even when it negatively impacts your own happiness.
I’ve learnt so much from them both over the years; they are truly wonderful role models. If I ever have children I hope I will be even half the Mum that mine has been to me. She is wonderful, kind, thoughtful and selfless and the support she gives me, even across an ocean, is something to be marvelled at.
So, I might not be with you today Mum but I hope you know how much you mean to me and how much I appreciate everything you’ve done for me over the years and continue to do even now. You truly are a Mum in a million and I’m grateful every single day that you’re mine. I’ll see you in 17 weeks and I’ll be saving up your hugs till then. Happy Mother’s Day Mum. xx